The paradox of hedonism is just a skill issue

Being good at enjoying things, tea culture is a good example. Basically overcoming the paradox of hedonism through skill is the trick. Can you really explain away the paradox of hedonism as a skill issue?

The Q of why aestheticism came first to tea, wine, and tobacco, and only later to beer and coffee is really interesting

Why do people stop finding new favourite things as they get older? I dont think its a neuroplasticity thing, i think its that they get out of practice at finding new things. I’m busy, even if i listen to 1/5th of the new music i was listening to when i was 16 i dont feel like im finding 1/5 as much new stuff. also low hanging fruit etc. in terms of whats a natural match for you. but idk i just want to say it’s not just neuroplasticity or w/e. I’m not sure why i want to say that, but i do